Mark wrote:

I hope you can help. I had a wonderful reading yesterday and once again was told that I will be very involved in mediumship and healing.

I was advised that so many spirits are trying to use my energies that this is making me tired as I do not close down properly. To be honest I didn't know I was opening!

I forgot to ask but how do I close down and ask the spirits to leave until I am ready to invite them back?

Also how can I open?

I would very much appreciate some advice to help me on this.

Regards

Mark

And Stella replies ….

Dear Mark,
How nice to find an interesting letter from you in my mailbox! ... Please let me explain a few things for you if I may?

I will start with the last thing on your list...."How can I open?"

It's like this; in normal everyday life when we are talking to a person we give them our total attention and are 'open ' to the conversation.   When we have finished talking to a person we close our attention off without thinking about it, and don't hear if they go on talking and have to say ‘Pardon?'  Because you were not listening! Simple!

So far so good?

When we are talking to spirit people we must do the same thing - but in a more conscious and definite way. Invite your spirit guide to come and talk to you  - only in love and light, this will protect you at all times.   

Say " Hello my friend [guide, aunty, uncle, who ever you wish to talk to] please come and be with me in love and light." That’s all.

When you finish and get up to go and have a cup of tea say "Thank you for joining me - goodbye." You have finished in a polite way talking to a friend.

If you want to add "Lord protect me from harm." That’s a good thing to do every day, isn't it?

After all we don't open the front door and shout up the street "Any one can come in here and do what they like!" do we?

Here’s a suggestion:
Talk to them by a definite action, for example sitting in a certain place at a certain time - as you would go and visit a person at their house.  This is called meditation or visualisation; on the Web Page in the Articles section under ‘Lessons’.

It is not needed to 'open up' the chakras or 'close down' anything because you are just having a private conversation with a friend, who you have called on, don't forget --- ask them to come in love and light.

If you go to visit a sick person say to your spirit friends "Please come with me, and let me pass healing energies through to help and heal this person." 

That is the meaning of being a MEDIUM - YOU ARE IN THE MIDDLE – energy is passing through you.  We are all able to do this if we ask spirit. You need nothing special, just a willingness to help.

It’s not possible for the spirits to 'drain' any energy from anywhere, as they can only come in kindness especially healing spirits. They can only GIVE not take away.

This is one of the basic truths of Spiritualism, in fact it's A BASIC LAW.

 "... so many spirits are trying to use my energies that this is making me tired ..."

It’s just NOT possible to 'leak' energy - all healers would be ill if that was so, or get very tired 'holding' onto it all the time - so that's a bit silly!!!

No healing medium ever uses their own energy, or they wouldn't have the energy to get up in the morning!  – and in fact if it’s done properly we mediums are getting a buzz!! Truly!! 

But please understand this, we can all give our healing energies through sympathy and wanting to help people that are unwell, this is willingness on our part, like being a volunteer, perhaps you’ve heard the remark:

 "Oh! S/he makes me feel so much better after a visit."

No harm in that, provided the person giving is not allowing this to go on for such a long time that they forget to ask for energies to come from the spirit world to help. [It is possible for us all to allow our natural strengths to deminish by becoming over tired through too much hard work, thinking work or physical work!]

 ... "Also how can I open?" ...

If you wish to give healing [either by absent or direct method] simply ask the spirit healers to be with you in that healing time, and ask that they protect you. It's a conscious action, just ask !

This is all it takes. Just talk to them and ask for help. I do it at any time of the day as needed [quietly inside my head.]

REMEMBER There is no way anything can happen without YOUR permission. So you don’t need to worry that they will intrude at all, ever.

I'm a bit cross that you should be told these things which are not accurate.  Foretelling the future is not possible – it would mean that you have no free will to use, thereby taking away any personal responsibility! [Principle Five for everybody not just for Spiritualists!]

To put it in the most kindly way possible.... the person who gave this information must have no formal training and has misunderstood the Spirit Law, a bit more reading on the “Rules and Codes of Practice” is needed there!

Any psychic [or other] reading must start with a prayer for protection. If it didn't then you know they are not doing the job correctly.

Anyway, you enjoyed the reading … good.  That’s what a psychic does - read you - and if they identified a spirit person that came to talk to you that’s nice, an extra bonus!  Spirit will work their hardest to get a message across, but sadly it’s also a temptation for the ‘reader’ to give advice too. I sometimes used to fall into that trap when I first started….woops!

You say in your letter that you’ve been told this before. Was it the same person that told you twice?

" ... told I  will be very involved in mediumship and healing ..."

This is against all the rules - for the very reasons you are writing to me - it's so easy to cause confusion, also personal responsibility means nobody can tell what you should do with any [real or imagined] ability, they would be taking that personal esponsibility away from you, by influencing your actions ... see? [Principle Five again.]

Anyway, you need to feel it’s right in the inner self, and that you have that feeling of ‘wanting to be of service' first, in that case they have done you a good service by stimulating the thinking parts … Hooray!!

So many simple folk walk into church and see only the outer actions and think all they have to do is plop hands onto a body and healing just happens, but the Spirit guides and helpers must train their helpers through co-operation, prayer, and meditation, and I am sure when you are willing to take the time to do just that, they will be very happy. It could be now or later, when it suits you.

Have a look at the lessons and at the healing pages under articles on the Main Menu too. See what draws you attention, and of course, ask spirit to guide you before you set off on this most exciting path…..

Remember….

Being a medium for healing [or anything else] is FUN.

ENJOY!!!!

Kindest regards

Stella.